Emotional Healing And Emotional Health

I wrote this blog on emotional healing and emotional health because nothing is more important than how you feel.  But here’s the problem:

We’ve been taught and conditioned from a very early age to believe emotions are bad and wrong and we shouldn’t even have them.  Emotions are the enemy, we’ve been taught.  This conditioning is so powerful, and so pervasive, it’s hard to even see it.

It goes unspoken.  It’s an accepted ‘truth’.

But here’s a higher truth:

Life is an emotional experience.

Life is about your emotions.  Nothing holds greater importance than how you feel.  Sadly, we often don’t come to this realization until we’re on the low end of the emotional spectrum.

Here’s What’s Going On

Your heart is the seat of your consciousness. But in today’s society, we’re taught to believe our minds are in charge.  It’s all about the mind.  From an early age, we’re taught that we should feel with our mind, while our heart has little or no value.

We try to think our way out of feeling.  We learn to ‘manage’ our feelings.  We try to control them – manipulate them – stuff them down or repress them.  Anything but simply feel them!

Your heart longs to feel. But we learn at an early age we’re not supposed to feel.

“Big boys don’t cry.”

“Good little girls don’t get angry.”

“Don’t be afraid.”

We end up stuffing down our true feelings so we can fit in.  We want to belong.  And since everybody else is manipulating their feelings, we start doing it too.

But pain is caused by -

1. A separation from,
2. And a longing for, some thing.

When you’re separate from something you long for, it creates pain.  When you manipulate or attempt to control your emotions in some way, so that the feelings are not able to be felt by your heart, it will create emotional pain.

Emotional pain is a natural and ever-present by-product of trying to manage your emotions.


Emotional pain is a message – a warning – that your relationship with your emotions is faulty.  When you ignore that message, the pain increases.  It really is that simple.  That’s why it can be downright dangerous to listen to the advice you hear from most people when it comes to emotional healing.  Because they almost always are trying to get you to manage your emotions as a way to reduce the emotional pain.  And that never works.  It never has and it never will.  It can’t.

The more you try to manage your emotions, the worse you’re going to feel.

Why You Need Emotional Healing

Emotional healing helps you return to your natural way of feeling.
You did not come into this world to suffer, no matter what you’ve been taught to the contrary.  Life is not about suffering and struggling and enduring pain.  Rather, it’s about meeting our needs, so we can reach and stretch and grow.

Almost from the day we were born, we’ve been fed erroneous and misleading information from well-meaning people who were only trying to help.

“I’m only telling you this for your own good….”

And they really believed what they were saying.  Beliefs get pounded into our heads about emotions that are simply not true.  But we come to accept them as the Gospel Truth because we don’t know any better.  And everywhere you turn, the message gets reinforced.  Everywhere in society – everybody ‘knows’ that emotions are the source of all your problems.


It becomes hard to even talk about emotions without someone thinking there must be something wrong with you.

Emotional health requires us to remove the masks we wear.

Can I even show my true feelings to the world?

Emotional healing gets shoved way down on the ‘to-do’ list of living life.  Only when the problem becomes severe, and we’re forced to focus on it, do we start searching for solutions.

So why do you need emotional healing?

Because you did not come here to be in pain.  Life is too short to suffer.  You came here to change things – to rise about the erroneous beliefs of society.  You were born for a reason; it’s not chance or dumb luck that got you here.  There is a greater plan.

Look, we live in a very dysfunctional society.  But because it’s all we know, it’s hard to see how unnatural it really is.  Dysfunction and pain become ‘normal’.  Not because they really are, but because it’s all we know.

It’s not your emotions that need healing – rather it’s the erroneous beliefs and attitudes we carry around with us like concrete blocks – that’s what needs healing.

Your emotions are fine.  They don’t cause pain.  Emotions never cause pain.  Blocking your emotions always causes pain.  Managing your emotions causes pain.  Attempting to control your emotions causes pain.

So it’s not really ‘emotional healing’ as much as it is ‘belief and attitude healing’.  Then, you can return to your natural way of feeling.

What Is Emotional Health?

Let me hold up my own life experience as an example of emotional health.

Mark Ivar Myhre, The Emotional Healing Wizard

Me trying to look cool.

I get angry.  I get scared and lonely.  I get hurt.  I get sad, even a little depressed sometimes.  But it never lasts!  I could even feel despair, but it wouldn’t last more than a minute or two.  (Well, okay, maybe an hour!)  Why?

Because I’ve learned I have an ‘emotional wellspring’ deep inside me.  There’s a flow of emotion that comes into me.  It comes from God, as far as I can tell.  This flow of emotion is a gift.

It’s a gift to be able to feel!

Emotions are a gift from God, in my opinion.  Once I really let that in, my life started to change for the better.

I am connected to this flow.  It’s always ‘on’.  The flow is always coming into me.  And it’s meant to flow through me.  When I block or impede that flow in any way, it’s going to create problems.  Guaranteed.

Emotions are too powerful to be contained.  They carry too much energy and power.  You’re playing with dynamite when you attempt to control them.

Emotions connect you to divine energy.

When you’re in a state of emotional health, you allow yourself to feel whatever comes up.  You are willing to feel all your feelings.  Now, here’s the problem:

We try to feel with our head instead of feeling with our heart.

I dare say most people have not felt a true feeling since they were small children.  Most people don’t know what true, unadulterated feelings are.  Instead, they only know ‘managed’ feelings.


They’ve encapsulated their feelings with their thoughts.  And that’s playing with dynamite.  That’s not emotional health!

Emotional health comes from embracing a whole new mindset about your emotions. It comes from accepting the flow that’s always on.  It comes from letting emotions flow right through you.  Surrendering to the flow, without submitting to it.

Emotional healing comes from having the courage to rebel against the lies you’ve been taught your whole life about what it means to have feelings. It comes from allowing yourself to question your own beliefs and assumptions about life and living and what it means to feel.

Ending emotional pain starts with choice. It starts with choosing to start allowing yourself to feel – without telling yourself stories about what those feelings mean.  It starts with a willingness to feel all your feelings.

The more you can just let yourself feel the true, unadulterated feelings, the more emotional healing you’ll experience in your life.  So how do you do that, exactly?  Lot’s of baby steps; lots of small realizations; lots of allowing yourself to open up to what’s really going on.

It won’t happen in a weekend.  But it can start right this minute.  It starts with being willing to open to the possibility that maybe – just maybe – everything I know about my emotions, I learned from other people.  And no matter how well-meaning they may have been, they were wrong.

Look, separating your thoughts from your feelings, so you can learn how to feel again, is going to take some time and practice.  But I’m living proof it can happen.  You can be as happy as you want, if you’re also willing to feel as sad as you are.  When you’re willing to feel all your feelings, that opens you up to feeling whatever you want to feel.

Willingness to feel it all leads to feeling what you want.

No sounder advice could be given to  someone who’s ready for true emotional healing.  It’s at least worth pondering.  Hopefully, it stirs up some confusion.  Because the one who’s never confused is the one who never grows.

Something to think and feel about…

I may amend or change this page at any time, so check back often!

Please feel free to leave your comments below.

all the best,

Mark

Mark Ivar Myhre
The Emotional Healing Coach
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anton July 5, 2011 at 11:16 pm

Mark, its nice to read your blog. Can you tackle about why people hard to forget their past especially those who has tremendous sufferings. Thanks in advance.

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Mark Ivar Myhre July 6, 2011 at 3:28 pm

Hi Anton,

good to hear from you

so, why is it hard to forget a bad past?

yes, I will write about that soon.

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Leslie July 6, 2011 at 6:07 pm

Hi! Mark,

I Suggest That You Tell Anton To Read The Book “ON WOODEN WHEELS”.
It’s A True Story, Written By Stacey Goldring, On A Woman I Have Personally Met. Her Name Is Carla Schipper. I Think Anton Could Learn A Lot From This Book. It May Be Hard To Find. But I Think Amazon.com Had Some Copies Of It!
Please Let Me Know If Anton Gets The Book, And If He Reads It; And What He Thought About It If He Does Read It. Thank You For Everything.
ALL THE BEST, LESLIE

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Mark Ivar Myhre July 7, 2011 at 2:46 pm

Thanks, Leslie!

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Nick July 7, 2011 at 7:00 pm

Great blog.. Can I repost this?

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Mark Ivar Myhre July 8, 2011 at 9:06 am

Yes, that will be fine.

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Atha July 13, 2011 at 7:33 am

Hello,
I am very pleased to see someone is actually willing to admit Gods Will and Divine power/ intervention. Thank You.

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P.P. July 26, 2011 at 7:31 pm

So, there is a real man out there. Thank God.

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Amanda August 5, 2011 at 9:29 pm

So where were YOU when I was in the husband aisle!? Hahahah!

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Frank Adley August 11, 2011 at 12:07 pm

You’ve really nailed it! Conventional wisdom can really keep you on the hamster wheel. Having your emotions in motion flowing is a beautiful thing.
I have learned to access my perfect state of felt perception without the noise from my mind…..and it is beautiful!!

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Layla August 31, 2011 at 5:25 am

nice work !

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Leslie August 31, 2011 at 12:28 pm

Hi! Mark,

You Give VERY GOOD ADVICE. Thank You FOR SHARING It With Us.!

ALL THE BEST TO YOU, LESLIE

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CCC September 1, 2011 at 10:06 pm

Hi Mark!

What do u mean by the word ”God”? If not in a religious way.

Thanks

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Mark Ivar Myhre September 2, 2011 at 8:55 am

I had to read through my post to see what you were referring to – and I suppose you are talking about where the emotional wellspring comes from?

Usually, I don’t say the word ‘God’ because it is so emotionally charged!

Usually, I say a more generic-sounding word – ‘Creator’.

Now, to answer your question as gingerly as possible -

I believe we are all creatures. So by definition, there had to be some sort of creator that made us creatures. I believe there is some sort of ‘divine intelligence’ that made all this, and then gave us the free will to do what we want.

My theory (currently – as it does change and evolve!) is that the emotional wellspring that I first noticed years ago is actually the flow of energy that’s keeping us alive. And it has more than just emotion in it, as I’m starting to realize.

I can only trace it back to the unconscious mind, so where it comes from exactly, I can’t say. I just assume it comes from the one who created me. That’s just an educated guess.

Anyway, when I think of God, I imagine a divine sort of conscious energy that created me and loves me very much. And my value comes from knowing I am loved by my creator despite all my flaws. But that’s just my best guess.

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SALLY WHITE September 12, 2011 at 7:36 pm

I RECENTLY HAVE HAD SOME PAST COME INTO MY LIFE FROM ABUSE AS A CHILD AND THROUGH MY EARLY ADULT LIFE . I HAVE TROUBLE WITH COPING MECHANISMS AND WISH SOMETIMES I NEVER HAD TO WORK I LOVE MY PATIENTS AND HATE THE PEOPLE I WORK WITH. THE WORLD IS CRUEL PEOPLE ARE INTOLERANT AND GREED RUNS THE SHOW . SO TO SOLVE ALL MY EMOTIONS AND GET THEM IN CONTROL FOR MY LISBON BOSS I NEED TO SEE THE DR AND GET A PILL I AM SCARED TO DEATH . I DON’T GET WHY GOD GAVE ME THE GIFT OF HEALING AND THEN LEAVES ME STRANDED ON MY JOB THIS REALLY HITS HOME HELP .

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Helena September 18, 2011 at 3:00 am

Wow…ok that feels much better.
I was always thinking… i am just to emotional, thanks for telling me, it is just ok to have feelings. I know that God has given me that gift, He was happy and he smiled, He was sad and he shown he was feeling sad. He cried like we do. Thanks for reminding me that i am a part of the universe, that i am filled with energy that connects me to my creator.
Actualy it feels good to cry sometimes.
When i cry and turn my mind to my Divine Creator i can feel that He is with me and this warm feeling of peace comes over me.

Thanks again for your great advice you share with those who need it.
Best of luck in your work.

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helen September 26, 2011 at 2:10 pm

Hey Mark would you please write something about the real feelings of bipolar I never can seem to explain to my friends and family how deeply it can effect you down to your core or soul.

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Mark Ivar Myhre September 26, 2011 at 4:35 pm

Yes, I will talk about my own experiences with bipolar – look for it soon!

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sue October 8, 2011 at 10:50 pm

feelings are emotions , and we can control our feelings or manage it but how about if the senses are distorted and and being paralyzed by unknown , like with schizophrenics patient,was the cause just mind created or cause by malfunctioning body parts

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Mark Ivar Myhre October 10, 2011 at 12:04 pm

I’ll be writing an article about schizophrenia very soon

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Mark Ivar Myhre November 9, 2011 at 8:10 pm

well, here it is a month later, and I still haven’t gotten around to writing about this. let me say for now that I do believe we choose our bodies before we are born, and for a person to have schizophrenia, I believe they chose that for some reason. What that reason would be, I do not know.

As for your question, I believe it is indeed malfunctioning body parts. As far as I know (and I don’t know much about this) it is not just from shutting down their feelings or created somehow by their mind.

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dana October 8, 2011 at 11:39 pm

Hi i have been on paxil for 18 years minus 2 that i had gotten myself off. I am tapering off slowly. I am a mess it started with a verbally abusive husband , divorce a couple deaths and im newly married and i dont know how i feel about him. I just want to be alone. I was 40 mg awhile back and got a different doctor and he took me down to 10 mg just 4 yrs back . I think i was,on 20 mg prior to that. Anyway i am on 2.5 mg. I am suffering with neck pain metal taste in my mouth, crying easily and dizziness. I just feel spaced out. This is the worst drug to get off of. I feel the long term side effects r worse then dealing with feeling ur emotions or trying to learn to feel again. This is my 3rd husband and he wants me back like i was . I am not going back once i get off this. I drink lots of water and am doing foot detoxes. I hope everyone who ever thinks to take a serious drug researches the long term effects. There are many more and im finding i have them . I just need all the help i can get. I am 48 yrs old . I walk and jog 5 days a week . That helps my mind a whole lot . If u have any other suggestions please let me know. This is probably going to take a long time to get this stuff out of my body! Thank you for having this website!

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Mark Ivar Myhre October 10, 2011 at 12:03 pm

Hi Dana,

sorry to hear about all you’re going through.

If you got on my list for antidepressant withdrawal, I’ll be sending out all the info I know about it.

http://www.ivar.info/antidepressant-withdrawal-help.html

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John November 5, 2011 at 1:54 pm

I have troble expressing my emotions is there any medication I can take to. Help with my emootion’s. Please let me know if there is I’m also Bipolar and ADD. Thank you! John

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Mark Ivar Myhre November 7, 2011 at 9:41 pm

Hey John,

I’m probably not the best to ask about that. Maybe someone else has some suggestions and they’ll leave a comment here.

But you know, it’s the feeling of emotion that is most important to me. Then the expression seems to take care of itself.

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utomi peter ugbekile November 10, 2011 at 7:16 am

maturity comes with the ability to control your emotions in the positive direction

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ESperidion B. Corvera Jr. November 11, 2011 at 8:24 am

Very nice article.Can you send me more information about emotions in which i am interested for a dissertation in gerontology?

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Mark Ivar Myhre November 12, 2011 at 11:59 am

You might want to get a copy of my free ebook on emotional healing – just look on the right hand column for details

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Ann November 11, 2011 at 10:07 am

Very nice blog post, thank you for sharing. I especially appreciate the line about “having the courage to rebel against the lies you’ve been taught your whole life.” I have found that it can be difficult to rebel when the lies you’ve been taught still seem real.

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Chris November 12, 2011 at 5:35 pm

Dear Mark, This is such a great article and such a help. I love all your articles and they have helped me so much. I am finally off anti depressants and for the first time in years, I am back to myself. It isnt a bad place to be. I was diagnosed with bipolar 2 amonst other things and went on mood stabilisers which created their own hell for me. I had all the side effects. Now , I dont wake up with anxiety every day and have panic attacks. I am no longer isolated, I interact with people and go out. I thank God I found your website as it has had such a positive effect on my life. Thank you for your honest sharing. Keep well

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Mark Ivar Myhre November 13, 2011 at 5:03 pm

I’m grateful it’s helping, Chris.

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Leslie November 12, 2011 at 7:20 pm

Hi! Mark,

You Are Really Doing Some Wonderful Things For A Lot Of People, Including Me! Keep Up The Wonderful Work You Are Doing!

ALL THE BEST TO YOU,
LESLIE

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Mark Ivar Myhre November 13, 2011 at 5:01 pm

Thanks Leslie – glad to hear from you!

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dede November 20, 2011 at 7:55 pm

to just let it all flow, that’s what i’m gonna do because it’s a beautiful thing

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Daisy November 22, 2011 at 8:46 am

It is lucky to google this artle unexpctedly. Very good article and I love it. I quite agree with your comment “when I think of God, I imagine a divine sort of conscious energy that created me and loves me very much. And my value comes from knowing I am loved by my creator despite all my flaws. “

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Eucabeth November 29, 2011 at 4:56 am

Bravo Mark. I like the way you responded to the question regarding God and further elaborated that it’s the Creator. I personally do not even refer to God as father i prefer saying Creator

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Leslie December 4, 2011 at 2:12 pm

Hi! Eucabeth,

I Agree With You! I Prefer To Refer To G-D As Creator Also!

ALL THE BEST, LESLIE

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bewildered December 4, 2011 at 11:35 pm

I grew up in a home where it was unacceptable to show emotions or to have needs. This was considered selfish and self centered. This mindset was reinforced in our church. I have suffered with major depression and anxiety for as long as I can remember. I have been on many antidepressants for nearly 20 yrs and in therapy consistently for over 12 years. At 48, I am just beginning to feel and to ask for my needs to be met instead of stuffing everything. I’m learning to be ok with what I feel but I don’t know how to “act” around other people. I can’t do my job or even be around family or friends when I’m so sad and angry. How do I manage my emotions in a healthy way?

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Mark Ivar Myhre December 6, 2011 at 8:02 am

Hi Bewildered,

I would say there is a distinction between standing up for myself, and having my needs met. I have found that I meet my needs internally, rather than externally, and I’ve written about that topic somewhere on this blog. I’ve also written my opinion about standing up for yourself.

As for the feelings, I would say it’s great that you are starting to honor them and respect them for what they are – a very valuable part of you. It’s a process, for sure!

But as for how to act – I would like to point out that acting is not feeling your feelings. They are two different animals. It’s not the emotions that need managing – it’s the stories we tell ourselves about our emotions – that’s what needs managing.

The key is to ‘let in’ the feelings and when you do that, there will be little or no physical signs.

I would suggest starting with writing out your feelings as much as possible on paper. And spend time learning the distinction between feeling a feeling, and thinking a feeling.

(Hint: Everybody in the whole world, practically, tries to think their feelings!)

It’s hard to describe – but you don’t feel with your head. You feel with your heart. Practice letting in the feelings without thinking any thoughts about those feelings. Practice alone; trying to let in feelings rather than think them. Practice connecting with your heart. Practice making it the center of your consciousness rather than your head being the center of your consciousness.

Now, in addition to all I’ve just said, one point to keep in mind is that there may be a huge log jam of suppressed emotion that is just waiting to come out. In fact, I would be VERY surprised if that were not the case. Therefore the more you can write all that stuff out on paper, the more you can bleed it off when you are alone. That’s a big part of how you would ‘manage’ your emotions in a healthy way. Bleed off the static that’s surrounding you right now.

That’s where I would start.

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bewildered December 6, 2011 at 4:18 pm

Thanks for your reply. When referring to my needs, I was referring to those that I cannot meet myself, knowing that it is ok to have needs and that it is not selfish to ask for those needs to be met. I guess you could call that standing up for myself.
You’re right about the log jam of emotions, in fact it’s more like a dam. I am an avid journalist and at times I’ve found that I can’t write fast enough! This continues to be a great outlet for me though I often slip into the over analyzing mode. I am an obsessive thinker, likely an avoidant pattern.
I’m not sure I follow your reasoning about the stories I’m telling myself about my emotions. Are you saying I should aknowledge my feelings but don’t think about why I feel them or over analyze them?

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Mark Ivar Myhre December 6, 2011 at 10:12 pm

Yes.

It’s common to tell ourselves stories about why we are angry, for example. We might say that someone did something, and they made us angry. And it may be factually true that they did something. But what is not true is that ‘they made me feel angry’. That is impossible, if you really think about it. Nobody can make us feel anything.

I use the anger as an example, but it applies to all emotions. Fear also can be weighted down with all kinds of stories. Fear stories, I call them.

” But what if this happens…?”

“I might get in trouble…”

There’s a million different fear stories we could tell ourselves.

Now, there’s nothing wrong with thinking and analyzing. But when it comes to feelings – the ideal is to just feel them. And if you want to look back on the situation later, sure that’s fine. But many people live the habit of rationalizing why they feel something, rather than to simply feel it.

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bewildered December 7, 2011 at 12:19 pm

Thanks for your help. I get it now. It may seem silly but I never really thought about just feeling a feeling and not analyzing it to death.
The “acting” is something I’ve done for so long I don’t even think about it. I think I’ve always known that it’s not good for me, or anyone else for that matter. It’s a living a lie.

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Mark Ivar Myhre December 7, 2011 at 4:17 pm

at least you’re not the only one who’s been analyzing and acting!

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shikha December 11, 2011 at 11:52 am

y it is so hard to forget past is dere any way to forget someone and totally erase from memory

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Mark Ivar Myhre December 12, 2011 at 7:58 pm

If it were me, I would just focus on feeling the feelings I have about this person. Feel them without telling myself a story about the person. Feel the feelings cleanly and then the feelings will go. Then it doesn’t matter if I forget them or not.

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diadem December 29, 2011 at 8:16 pm

am a soft hearted person and everytime i feel like crying 2 d extent dat wen i was writing my exams i couldnt concentrate n i just cant figure it out. What can i do?

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Orenda December 30, 2011 at 1:36 pm

Hi, Diadem,
You say you are soft hearted, what do you mean by that? That you are too empathic? That your emotions get out of balance too easily? That you are a very sensitive person? That you feel very sad many times? Or everyting at the same time?There must be a great sadness in you. When you cry so much…I wonder what it is…
I noticed that you write i and not I. Also I noticed that you write diadem and not Diadem. Why is that? Don’t you deserve capitals? For me it wouls also feel better if you would not use SMS style writing. I’m not used to it. It is like you feel like you almost do not deserve to be listened at, or something. Bye

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Lera January 1, 2012 at 3:01 pm

I’m a very sensitive person and soft,everytime when i get angry i end up crying especialy when someone makes me angry.what i like about me is i dnt hold grudges,we argue today i get angry tomorrow we cool.i lived an abuse life for 8years,lots of stress,pain,anger and sleepless.we left that life but now i cnt satisfy my feelings,my mom dnt listen to what i want and how i feel she wants what she think is good for me she wana compare me whit others.i used to be open-minded i still think that but i cnt do that wich i used to take action.i cnt forget the past (abuse and my ex)i dream about the person who used to abuse me and my mom,he passed away but i still cnt forget what he used to do us.im now busy job hunting for a year now and no luck seeing my friends working and thy all married were not even close like before,all that makes feel i dnt have goals that i dnt wana reach.i feel like going to a new place where nobody knows me,meet new faces and start a new life but again running away wont help

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Ashiq January 3, 2012 at 5:56 am

Hi Mark,

I have read all your emails, gone through your Emotional Wellspring audio guided meditation, read the 2 free e-books. Whatever you present, resonates so much with me. But with all your products, where do I start? Which product is the best to start from? If you could help me point the direction, please.

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Mark Ivar Myhre January 3, 2012 at 9:59 pm

Hi Ashiq,

If it were me, I’d sign up for the membership site – that way you get all my products for only $12 a month. Plus, I put out new meditations every month, so you’ll always have fresh content to choose from. To find out more, just go here – http://www.join-the-fun.com/sitemem.html

Now, to answer your question directly – which product to start with? That really depends on you. But if I had to suggest something, I would say either the ego tapes, the forgiveness info, or the seven spheres technique. Of course, you could get them all for only twelve bucks if you take advantage of my offer at the link above (hint, hint!)

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Ashiq January 8, 2012 at 6:36 pm

Hi Mark,

Okay, it’s done. I have taken advantage of your offer. Will keep you posted on my experiences. Thank you in advance!

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Andrew Hawes January 9, 2012 at 10:38 am

I’m hurting right now tears are welling up i hurt for my self. My Dad had his problems he worked hard to provide for his family,but he never in an imatate way showed me he love me. I did not recieve hia love. My brother abuse me for sixty years i was made to feel less tha dirt a lot less than dirt! Now the same thing has happen to my daughter, we were very close when she was young,something happen we have not seen each other in ten years. She when i call barley talks to me. I took here Christmas presents in Dec. In Jan. she had a birthday i took her gifts. She does’nt need things she needs me her Dad. She is hurting too. He Jesus Knows where we are at Andrew

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cybil February 4, 2012 at 12:45 am

So, can you please explain how to get others to embrace this idea of emotions in combination with life? I understand and believe in your vision..but the people I come across in life do not. What do you do?

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Mark Ivar Myhre February 4, 2012 at 8:25 pm

I don’t really try to get anyone to embrace my ideas – I just tell them my experiences. They can accept or reject the ideas as they wish. I just talk about what seems real to me. Some people like it, some don’t.

I realize many people don’t see emotions as I do. And they probably never will. All I can do is be strong in myself. Maybe something will rub off!

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Tara February 5, 2012 at 11:10 am

This is a beautiful and very touching post. I’m so glad I found it today. Thank you for sharing of yourself so freely.

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Nneoma February 6, 2012 at 4:42 pm

I’m quite glad to have come across your article tonight. It’s really interesting and a discovery.

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Amanda February 10, 2012 at 11:27 am

Hi Mark, I’m enjoying reading your blog, thank you for all your insights.

What is the link to your facebook page?

Thanks ;)

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Mark Ivar Myhre February 11, 2012 at 12:57 pm

boy, you’d think I’d put that link somewhere on my website!

guess I’d better add it to my list of things to do…

in the meantime –

http://www.facebook.com/mark.myhre

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Amanda February 14, 2012 at 6:44 am

:)

Thanks Mark ;)

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Andrew February 11, 2012 at 1:18 pm

i can not acceppt some of the practices on your site, Silva is one it’s an occult there’s another something like Sharmia in n.va. Try the spirts see if they be of God. They are not far as i am concerned, I want try anything that the holy spirt of God does not lead me. There are many spirts a out there they are all controled by Satan. Believe what you want There is a way that seemth right onto man there in is the way of death. I ask Jesus to be my Saviout thirty years ago. He warns me in his word. thks. Andrew Hawes

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Jamie February 13, 2012 at 6:49 am

Hi Mark,
I appreciate your thoughts, I’ve learned a lot from reading your site. Thank you! I was wondering if you’ve ever covered jealousy and how to deal with this?

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Mark Ivar Myhre February 13, 2012 at 7:54 am

Hi Jamie,

I’ve written two articles on jealousy which you can find by clicking this link -

http://www.emotional-times.com/tag/jealousy

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tekle kfle February 24, 2012 at 12:32 pm

tanku for your advice if u belive every event is by the god it lives confort life

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Lisa March 1, 2012 at 9:12 am

Hi Mark

I DO believe that you have hit the nail on the head!! From my personal experiences and much research on medical issue’s like the one’s above,You are totally right!! I Do believe and know for a fact that most illnesses come from within (as a start) Much like depression,Dr’s are so easily ready to prescribe drugs, (as they do profit from them) But they are ONLY a cover up to get through day to day and most often don’t work! Mind over matter comes to mind on this and the placebo effect!! This is the 1st time I have seen your blog,and I commend you on it!! Nice Job!! All healings must start within,at the core level,or at the “root level” as some call it.

I am a women of Faith,all Christ based…to the comment of Andrew above, I do not think the Silva method is a “occult” as they are another site for self help as well, As far as “Spirit’s” We all have Good Guardian Angel’s,Spirit Guides,that are all here to help us,if we only ask!! There may be some negative spirit energies,But…as long as you go into prayer with God,Jesus and stay on the positive side and ask them to Gueard you against negative spirits,they will!! I also believe (which took me a long time to accept) That we do choose our life before we come into this earth!! and for a reason!! I have discovered I chose my life with much suffering,that I had to endure,to Heal people,which is my purpose in life,You have to experience it before you can help other’s in the same situation!!

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Mark Ivar Myhre March 1, 2012 at 10:51 am

thanks for the feedback, Lisa.

as for the Silva method, I have no idea what that’s all about – Google just puts the ads on the page and I never know what will show up

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Kofoworola Ojomo April 6, 2012 at 1:54 pm

Use your mind, feel with your heart, use your head; these are all sentences that come up often when discussing the matter of emotion. Would you kindly explain the differences in the above. I know that both the head and heart are physical things but how do I control what I cannot manipulate?

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Mark Ivar Myhre April 9, 2012 at 11:00 am

Since this is a topic that others may be interested in as well, I’ve decided to write an article about it and post in on the blog.

I’ll call it – Integrating Your Heart And Your Head or something similar

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Ms. L. Carmel April 9, 2012 at 11:19 am

Hi! Mark,

I Agree Pretty Much With Lisa, Except Through A Jewish Perspective; That You Have To Experience Things For Yourself, Before You Can Help Others With The Same Or Similar Type Problems!

I Think I’ve Been Reading Your Very Helpful Blogs Since You First Began, And They Have Always Been Very Helpful! And I Thank You VERY MUCH, For EVERYTHING!

ALL THE BEST TO YOU,
MS. L. CARMEL

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Kertu April 16, 2012 at 1:21 pm

I can get my emotional healing by reading jokes, i have my own site too for that (freetimejokes.com) :)
But it was very truthful reading, thanks :)

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Diadem Adeshewa April 21, 2012 at 12:16 am

Hi Mark,your blog’s been helping me, thnks a lot.

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Andrew April 23, 2012 at 4:55 pm

i have been in touch with you before, soon as i can afford i’ll contact you again. I whent thur increbile emotional abused with my brother for sixty years. thks. Andrew

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Mark Ivar Myhre April 23, 2012 at 6:21 pm

Yes, I remember you, Andrew.

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It’s designed for new people, but everybody can get the discount once!

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Jack April 24, 2012 at 10:47 am

Well – wow. I found this blog from the point of view of a highly sensitive person (search for the term with its inventors name Elaine Aaron) who found life to painful to ‘feel’ at a very young age, and who became very supressed emotionally as a protection and shamed. I tried to cope with willpower and ‘mind’ and good intentions but found that in relationships this inevitably led to my being ‘found out’ and an explosion of anger from the other person. I just instinctively feel that what is in this blog is truth and a different path – so hard to live, but somehow the only way.

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Paula Coelho April 26, 2012 at 2:19 pm

Mark, thank you so much for your great reports in connection with emotions. I want to thank you and wish you the best of luck. Paula C.

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JOAO August 2, 2012 at 5:43 am

Dear Mark, please I didn’t understand, are you trying to say me-leave the emotions free?what if the emotions are worst and generate more hate and fight?what about spouses emotions-different realities and culture? how can I manage -provocations-people that blame you for theirs issues? how can I manage the shame of reputation?oh you say is the EGO ok how to cure it ?how can assume your weakness,your faults, your impotence, your frustrations?how can be free from our limitations>??OH, please help me.

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Mark Ivar Myhre August 6, 2012 at 6:24 am

well, it’s not really leaving the emotions free – instead, it’s bringing them into your heart. FEELING them – with your heart and NOT with your head!

Emotions are not bad – they are never bad. Hate, felt cleanly, by opening your heart and letting in the ENERGY of hate, and not the THOUGHTS of hate – will release the hate and leave you feeling more.

I understand this takes practice and it goes against what everybody says. But it works for me.

Now, people blaming you is a totally different issue. What I have done – and what has worked for me – is for me to FEEL the impact of their blame. But that can be hard to do if you’re not used to it. It’s so easy to blame back or spend our time making up stories about what it means that they are blaming me.

I”ll admit it’s not easy to resolve these issues. It takes time and effort and practice. But you start from where you are. These are perhaps ‘life issues’ that you came here on earth to resolve.

But overall, it starts with opening up and feeling everything you can then the next step involves working on meeting your needs.

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