Comments on: The Map to Misery http://www.emotional-times.com/2007/03/the-map-to-misery.html Articles and information on emotions and emotional healing. Sun, 01 Aug 2010 08:44:40 -0600 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9 hourly 1 By: ivar http://www.emotional-times.com/2007/03/the-map-to-misery.html/comment-page-1#comment-34 ivar Fri, 23 Mar 2007 19:41:00 +0000 http://www.emotional-times.com/?p=22#comment-34 Concerning the tiger - you created the tiger in the first place. (And yes, that is real fear!) If it were another person instead of a tiger, I would call it 'overlapping realities' between you and that other person. So, you both would have created it. <br /><br />Since it's an animal, I'm not sure what to call it.<br /><br />You overcome helplessness by intensely feeling the helplessness, without any anger or story attached, and then let go of those feelings of helplessness. <br /><br />(I realize many don't believe that.)<br /><br />The original perpetrator certainly has a part to play. <br /><br />Overlapping realities between the two of you.<br /><br />(But why did the perpetrator come to you instead of someone else?)<br /><br />All involved may make the situation<br />happen - but only YOU made your anger happen.<br /><br />For example, you could feel hurt or pity or many other things.<br /><br />Generally, there are seven different 'root' emotions that people use to explain what happens to them.<br /><br />Anger, fear, loneliness, pity, hurt, shame, and rage (or powerlessness - since they're so closely related). Concerning the tiger – you created the tiger in the first place. (And yes, that is real fear!) If it were another person instead of a tiger, I would call it 'overlapping realities' between you and that other person. So, you both would have created it.

Since it's an animal, I'm not sure what to call it.

You overcome helplessness by intensely feeling the helplessness, without any anger or story attached, and then let go of those feelings of helplessness.

(I realize many don't believe that.)

The original perpetrator certainly has a part to play.

Overlapping realities between the two of you.

(But why did the perpetrator come to you instead of someone else?)

All involved may make the situation
happen – but only YOU made your anger happen.

For example, you could feel hurt or pity or many other things.

Generally, there are seven different 'root' emotions that people use to explain what happens to them.

Anger, fear, loneliness, pity, hurt, shame, and rage (or powerlessness – since they're so closely related).

]]> By: Anonymous http://www.emotional-times.com/2007/03/the-map-to-misery.html/comment-page-1#comment-33 Anonymous Fri, 23 Mar 2007 02:44:00 +0000 http://www.emotional-times.com/?p=22#comment-33 If a tiger, preferably sabre-toothed, suddenly leaps at you (gradually leaping isn't possible), then a powerful impulse shoots from the amygdala to the eo-cortex (I think), fast-tracked ahead of the thought, "der a tiger is leaping at me" so evasive action is as quick as possible, along with overwhelming fear. Did you create that fear all by yourself! Didn't the tigger have a tiny part to play?<br /><br />It seems anger is our response to perceived injustice against ourself or others. You or the others must also feel fairly powerless. Do we become angry to give us the strength and power to overcome the feeling of helplessness. Also doesn't the original perpetrator of the injustice have at least a part to play in my anger. If we take the current holistic view of universal interconnectedness, then all involved in the situation make the anger happen. However as it is not a response, the original injustice may belong far more to the perpetrator than anyone caught downstream If a tiger, preferably sabre-toothed, suddenly leaps at you (gradually leaping isn't possible), then a powerful impulse shoots from the amygdala to the eo-cortex (I think), fast-tracked ahead of the thought, "der a tiger is leaping at me" so evasive action is as quick as possible, along with overwhelming fear. Did you create that fear all by yourself! Didn't the tigger have a tiny part to play?

It seems anger is our response to perceived injustice against ourself or others. You or the others must also feel fairly powerless. Do we become angry to give us the strength and power to overcome the feeling of helplessness. Also doesn't the original perpetrator of the injustice have at least a part to play in my anger. If we take the current holistic view of universal interconnectedness, then all involved in the situation make the anger happen. However as it is not a response, the original injustice may belong far more to the perpetrator than anyone caught downstream

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