Comments on: Feeling Better Now, Step By Step

By: john

john — Sun, 25 Dec 2011 22:34:28 +0000

Claire, you are right where you need to be. Each of us fight a war that cannot be won, only watch. I ask of you to watch yourself without any desire of attempting to make what you see and feel as yourself into something other than who you are. I ask of you to surrender your need to fight this thing in you that cannot be fought. Acceptance or surrender is the key that unlocks the door for your freedom to enjoy yourself as this moment, just the way it is, just the way you are. Claire, its o.k. to be you not wanting to fight anymore. Its o.k. to be you not wanting to be bothered to make the efforts to try. And its o.k. just to exist for no apparent reason whatsoever. Claire, I ask you to consider giving yourself permission not having to want to fight a war that cannot be won. I ask you to consider giving yourself permission to exist for no reason whatsoever. I ask that you just allow yourself to be totally right here, right now, without any desire for this present moment experiencing of yourself to be anything other than the way it is, as the way you are.

By: Alex

Alex — Sat, 03 Dec 2011 08:07:18 +0000

Thank you Mark for all the free advice and insights. It is truly inspiring when I am feeling down and don’t know what to do. I’ve been dealing with panic and depression since I’m 11 years old. I’m 27 now and just got off all the prescribed meds last year that were truly holding me back from feeling and maturing emotionally. Last two years have been hell, felt like I was a little kid all over again without the med. Info like this and talking and discussing feelings with other people who can relate is what has helped me become much stronger today. There’s no quick fix, its takes hard work to get out of depression.

By: Theresa

Theresa — Tue, 08 Nov 2011 16:34:36 +0000

Sitting here seeing these sad stories make we wanna just reach out and help but I only now starting feeling a little balanced I have thought about really hurting myself and only god has been able to hold me against this nothing else. I married 11years ago and was not really in love I just thought it was time. I have not kissed my husband in 11 years which was odd o me but I just did not feel the need to. We have two lovely kids one that has been fighting for the right to live seven years which tear Me and my husband apart. I tried setting my heart for him but it is a lie within me. I feel guilty for my kids and feel like I have disappointed everyone including myself. I found someone else which I am genuinely in love with but I decided not to sleep with him in order to not be mixed up in my mind. I now have a little piece of mind but the fear of loving is within me also

By: Mark Ivar Myhre

Mark Ivar Myhre — Thu, 03 Nov 2011 04:05:00 +0000

Hi Chris,

I would guess we all have a lot of work to do!

By: Chris

Chris — Wed, 02 Nov 2011 11:04:39 +0000

Hi Mark, Thanks for this article, It has really helped to lift me from the blahs. I was feeling rather emotionally raw and too sensitive to my emotions. I think working with my emotions let loose a lot of feelings I have been afraid to feel for a long time. Being now completely prescribed drugs free has been a bit of an emotional roller coaster ride but I am finding myself more consistently stable.
Going through this exercise lightens my mood every time I start to feel a bit down. I guess I still have a lot of work to do? Thank you so much for all your help and input.

By: pam

pam — Sat, 29 Oct 2011 05:04:37 +0000

Mark— i am 62 and have been diagnosed bipolar since 1990′s. really enjoy your blogs and free information.. I have read some books on change your brain change you’re life… dr daniel amen. implementing some of his ideas already… thanks for meditation ideas…guess that is where i have most of problem, those thoughts do get stuck and most people just tell you to get over it or woman up….lol…but you are so nice and not make judgment on what we do right or wrong and thatnk you for your insight…it is hard to have insight when you feel so depressed….
thanks’ again Mark

Pam

By: Ian

Ian — Fri, 26 Aug 2011 05:11:34 +0000

Thank you Mark, you have given me an antidote to what’s been ailing me.
Ian

By: Mark Ivar Myhre

Mark Ivar Myhre — Thu, 25 Aug 2011 12:45:00 +0000

Hi Ian,

If you are feeling your feelings, then you are bringing them into your heart, without telling yourself a story about
what the feelings mean. Also, it’s hard to maintain one feeling for very long. Remember, it’s a flow! But when we get stuck in our feelings, you can be sure there’s a story that’s impeding the flow, and we end up feeling the mixture of the feeling and the story mixed together. Pity, for example, can go on and on. Just like righteous anger and righteous hurt.

Also, whenever you feel something cleanly, it leaves you feeling at least a little bit better, even if you’re feeling a so-called ‘bad’ emotion. See? Even feeling fear or despair or hate (without telling yourself why you’re feeling it, or who’s to blame, etc.) will raise your resonance at least slightly.

You feel more alive when you feel cleanly.

But the main point to all this, is to practice!

That’s what I’ve done, extensively.

And it also helps clean things out if you’ll take paper and pen and just start scribbling down your thoughts and feelings on the paper, as fast as you can. Without stopping to think about what you’re writing. This helps to get the story out of the way. Plus, you get to recognize what you’re saying to yourself even more clearly than if you just thought those thoughts.

I would say it’s not about feeling good – it’s about feeling real. It’s about being willing to feel whatever comes up. For that matter, you could just as easily feel the stories and let them go. Feel as much as you can. That’s my philosophy. And I’m always looking to feel what’s real. Sometimes I’ll practice going through various emotions just to see if I can, but for the most part I give very little thought to what I’m actually feeling. I just want to be an open channel for the flow of feelings to move through me. I know that whatever comes up will make me feel more alive.

By: Ian

Ian — Wed, 24 Aug 2011 06:54:35 +0000

Mark,thanks for the info but I’m still apprehensive with feeling my feelings.I just don’t know if I’m doing it. Except…when I’m aware I’m incorporating a subjective story along with painful memories, I dwell on the memories less. My mood does change & I feel optimistic & there is no compulsion to resolve past rejection. It seems to me it’s the same old story that denies me the pleasures of today & without it my choices on how I feel are expanded. There is no compulsion to feel good for I am already feeling good or whatever, it’s my choice. I would like you to comment for this attitude is so new to me.

By: Mark Ivar Myhre

Mark Ivar Myhre — Thu, 09 Jun 2011 03:10:34 +0000

Hi Kirsten,

sorry to hear about what you’re going through.

I’m 54. Will you marry me? We’ll have to talk about the kids, though. I’ve already got two girls.