Gratitude Is Overrated

by Mark Ivar Myhre on December 19, 2007

Entire books have been written on the value of gratitude.

You can get rich just by being grateful. Or so one book I recently read claims. And I don’t doubt it.

You can get lots of wonderful things by being filled with gratitude. But here’s the problem:

Gratitude is a spontaneous celebration of happiness, thankfulness, and a few other feelings as well. However, the key word here is spontaneous. Gratitude is spontaneous. It could be summed up as:

“No matter what I do, I can never return the favor.”

To me, that’s gratitude. Yes, it’s important. It’s a wonderful energy and a great way to feel. It’s one of the ‘generating energies’ that I write about in the e-book, How To Create Your Own Reality.

But it’s not particularly easy for many people to feel true gratitude.

If your life sux, and someone tells you to feel grateful, what do you suppose you’ll really feel? If you’re anything like I used to be, you’re going to be filled with the exact opposite of gratitude. Namely, resentment, bitterness, envy, etc.

Because you don’t have the well of positive experience to draw from.

Your well is already filled with other energies.

You do have a well of experience you draw upon every day. It could be already overflowing with gratitude; because you’ve been feeling grateful for all the wonderful things in your life. And all the glorious experiences you’ve been having…

Or it could be a well filled with boring, mediocre, same-old-same-old day to day blasé experiences.

Or it could be a well filled with anger. Or fear. Or misery. Or…

You do have a well.

Now, it’s true. Humans have the potential ability to feel anything at anytime. But not necessarily the capability. (The space to exercise the ability.)

If you’re depressed, if you’re suffocating with anxiety, even if you’re in self-pity, you won’t be feeling gratitude. But you can move up the scale of emotions.

Gratitude’s way up at the top – next to love, intimacy, joy, and wonder.

If you’re down near the bottom, the trick is to feel slightly better. What can you feel – passionately – that feels a little better than what you’re currently feeling?

If you’re depressed, it’s often hate.

If you’re scared, it’s often anger.

Whatever. But you never have to settle for the way you’re currently feeling. Get those feelings move UP and OUT of you – whatever they are. That may take some ’emotional thrashing’.

Of course, you could always feel grateful that you’re even able to feel hate, or anger. It is a gift, you know.

{ 1 comment }

Amber December 20, 2007 at 1:15 pm

Thanks for that article, to many times myself included I believe that it is human nature to just feel the right now depending on what we are going through instead of looking at it as at least I am alive and able to have these feelings or become stronger because of the situation I am going through. I used to really suffer from lack of positive feelings and I didn't even consider gratitude as an emotion because of my depression. Luckily I found and I started to look at things as I was greatful for everything and because of these it seems that things are getting better and it is not so glum.

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