Comments on: Ask For Help http://www.emotional-times.com/2010/01/ask-for-help.html Articles and information on emotions and emotional healing. Thu, 29 Jul 2010 17:19:22 -0600 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9 hourly 1 By: ivar http://www.emotional-times.com/2010/01/ask-for-help.html/comment-page-1#comment-1144 ivar Tue, 19 Jan 2010 14:12:27 +0000 http://www.emotional-times.com/?p=424#comment-1144 Hi Sara, you mentioned you needed a 'little' help, so here it is - you're in the middle of a melodrama, right? you're stuck in the middle of a bad story what would you do if you were watching a REALLY bad movie, one that just made you sick to your stomach? and you were in the middle of it, and you knew it was going to go on and on? seemingly forever, with no end in sight.... I know what I'd do. but let's assume there's too much codependency to leave. the first thing is to take your power back from this situation. then, you need to look at YOUR contribution to all this. cause if you're an innocent victim, and you didn't make any contribution that you can see, then you'll most likely stay a victim. now, I am NOT saying to BLAME yourself for ANYTHING!!!! that's NOT taking responsibility. I would start by getting out pen and paper and getting my feelings out on paper - write and write and write and then write some more. that might help you to see the big picture here and I'm going to tell you a secret about men. they lie. look at what they DO more than what they SAY and start taking your power back! Hi Sara,

you mentioned you needed a ‘little’ help, so here it is -

you’re in the middle of a melodrama, right?

you’re stuck in the middle of a bad story

what would you do if you were watching a REALLY bad movie, one that just
made you sick to your stomach?

and you were in the middle of it, and you knew it was going to go on and on?
seemingly forever, with no end in sight….

I know what I’d do.

but let’s assume there’s too much codependency to leave.

the first thing is to take your power back from this situation.

then, you need to look at YOUR contribution to all this.

cause if you’re an innocent victim, and you didn’t make any contribution
that you can see, then you’ll most likely stay a victim.

now, I am NOT saying to BLAME yourself for ANYTHING!!!!

that’s NOT taking responsibility.

I would start by getting out pen and paper and getting my feelings out on
paper – write and write and write

and then write some more.

that might help you to see the big picture here

and I’m going to tell you a secret about men.

they lie.

look at what they DO more than what they SAY

and start taking your power back!

]]> By: Sara http://www.emotional-times.com/2010/01/ask-for-help.html/comment-page-1#comment-1103 Sara Wed, 13 Jan 2010 22:15:24 +0000 http://www.emotional-times.com/?p=424#comment-1103 How are you??? I just need a little help with an issue thats been hanging around a long time.Think its sorted & it crops up again.... I having bad dreams,This guy I am living with is acting psycho again!!He Has mood swings all day!!!Highs & Lows!!Then blames me,you know if I didnt do this or say that type of stuff!!! I have started to have bad dreams, His ex girlfriend has popped up again causing havoc, tells his daughter, all the reasons she doesnt like me!! Yet to my face she is smiley,asks me how I am... I have been with this guy 8yrs,she was only with him 6mnths, twice.. She & he cheated on me behind my back for 6mnths,2yrs ago..& she doesnt like me!!! why does she turn up 2 yrs later all the time,why does she want him so bad, yet in the past she said he "forced" her into a relationship.. this woman lives 3 houses down the back.. she is like a demon.. when I first met him he said he was over her wanted nothing to do with her..she was this & that... now he talks so nicely about her & gives her his big smiley face ,I see his arse.. he says he dioesnt love her,yet he was playing Ce lion Deon this morning you know the sickly ones.. I know she is seeing a shrink,but what the??? it all seems like a nightmare,I did have a peaceful life before I met him. I feel sometimes like I am losing the plot!!! Then it settles down again................. Thank You.. Blessings of Love & Peace.. How are you???
I just need a little help with an issue thats been hanging around a long time.Think its sorted & it crops up again….
I having bad dreams,This guy I am living with is acting psycho again!!He Has mood swings all day!!!Highs & Lows!!Then blames me,you know if I didnt do this or say that type of stuff!!!
I have started to have bad dreams,

His ex girlfriend has popped up again causing havoc, tells his daughter, all the reasons she doesnt like me!! Yet to my face she is smiley,asks me how I am…

I have been with this guy 8yrs,she was only with him 6mnths, twice..

She & he cheated on me behind my back for 6mnths,2yrs ago..& she doesnt like me!!!

why does she turn up 2 yrs later all the time,why does she want him so bad,
yet in the past she said he “forced” her into a relationship..

this woman lives 3 houses down the back..
she is like a demon..
when I first met him he said he was over her wanted nothing to do with her..she was this & that…

now he talks so nicely about her & gives her his big smiley face ,I see his arse..

he says he dioesnt love her,yet he was playing Ce lion Deon this morning you know the sickly ones..
I know she is seeing a shrink,but what the???
it all seems like a nightmare,I did have a peaceful life before I met him.

I feel sometimes like I am losing the plot!!!

Then it settles down again……………..
Thank You..
Blessings of Love & Peace..

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