What Do You Expect?

by Mark Ivar Myhre on October 5, 2010

I was sitting on the front porch swing the other day, minding my own business (just like I always do – it’s kind of what I’m famous for) when a young Puerto Rican woman walks up.

She says she’s 19, and has a 5 year old daughter.  She’s going door to door selling something.  Her canned sales pitch quickly becomes unraveled to reveal a raw anger towards… something… or somebody.  I’m not sure what or who she’s angry with.  (Since I’m minding my own business.)  But I’ve got a pretty good idea.

Being a student of human nature I can’t resist egging her on.  I want to hear her story.

She escaped from the ghetto of Atlanta, and in the last six months, as she says, “taught herself to speak like white people”.  She’s on a crusade to help herself and others rise up and enjoy the many benefits of what this great country has to offer.

At least I think that’s the gist of what her 20 minute diatribe was about.  It’s hard to say exactly.

I got the feeling I was supposed to feel guilty and help her, although I’m not exactly sure what I’m supposed to feel guilty about.  I try to explain that people around here aren’t necessarily doing that great, but she ain’t buying it.

Believe it or not, she really didn’t want to hear anything I had to say.  Yeah, I’m puzzled too. But I have to tell somebody, so I guess I’ll tell you.

Number one:

If you’re gonna sell stuff, sell what people want to buy.

I know, I know, that should be obvious.

You can’t go door-to-door and sell ‘books, Bibles, and magazines’.  Mark Twain got rich sending an army of salesmen out to sell his books door-to-door, but that was over 100 years ago.  It won’t work today.  You may as well be selling apples or tomatoes.

Or for that matter, why not whip up some bouquets of flowers?

You MIGHT have a chance selling an ‘impulse buy’ of a beautiful arrangement of flowers for a decent price.

Or sell a big-ticket item like some sort of home improvement.  Vinyl siding comes to mind.

But there is no way I’m going to cough up some money for ‘books, Bibles, or magazines’ when I won’t even be getting them for weeks.

You gotta sell what people want to buy if you expect to make any money.

Number two:

I would have told her to make this affirmation a part of her psyche –


If you’ll find the ‘mattering’ in that statement, it can make profound changes in your life.

The trick is to find the ‘mattering’ – what matters.

Mattering stands as a living breathing energy, just like love and responsibility and joy and forgiveness (among many others.)

Mattering and these other energies are ‘in the air’ – so to speak.  You can always access them.  For now, let’s look at how you could access the mattering of that affirmation I mentioned above.

Here’s one simple way –

Imagine the energy of mattering as resembling a mist that floats in the air.  Ask for the mattering of the affirmation to enter your body.  Imagine it flowing into you, flowing into the spaces between your body cells, and then slowly permeating every cell of your body until it fills you completely.

Mattering is a living breathing energy that will change your life, if you let it.

I try to live my life as if everything matters.

It matters that this young woman came into my life, however briefly.

She left angry.  I didn’t help her much.  That matters.

She came up to me angry.  That matters.

She blew off steam for 20 minutes.  That matters.

Her anger was a righteous anger; meaning she felt she had the right to be angry, and she wasn’t about to let it go, because she has future plans for her anger.  That matters.

I want to feel the mattering from this whole event that took place in front of me as I sat in my porch swing.  I might not understand the meaning from the event, but I want to feel the mattering.

What did the event mean?  I don’t know.  Whatever I want it to mean, I suppose.

Did the event matter?  YES!  Because I created it.  Because I matter, and it happened to me.

You see?  Don’t confuse meaning with mattering.  That’s where the concept of ‘reality creation’ breaks down for so many people.

They arbitrarily assign meaning instead of experiencing the mattering.

“Why did this girl walk up to me and start spouting off about her problems?  What does she expect me to do with an attitude like that??”

I could easily let my ego assign all sorts of meaning to this event.

Instead, I chose to FEEL the mattering.

Then it doesn’t have to make sense.  I don’t have to figure it out.  I don’t have to think about the meaning.

I already know it’s just a data stream; a never-ending stream of data that flows past me.  A stream of unfathomable mystery I can never figure out anyway.  May as well enjoy the ride!  Which I do, when I let in the mattering.

When I let in the mattering, I can be lifted to a whole new level of reality.

Here’s another benefit of letting in the mattering:

It strengthens my expectation.

Expectation is another one of those energies that’s ‘in the air’.  Unfortunately, very few people tap into it, for many reasons.

Expectation lies as the pathway to your future.

You travel upon your expectation to the future you will create.  It’s the channel you use to get from the present to the future.  So yeah, you could say it’s kind of important.

You’re always being pulled in the direction of your expectation. Like a gentle current.  Or like a magnetic attraction.

It’s too bad most people use doubt and fear and anxiety and apathy and pessimism and cynicism in place of expectation.  But it’s easy to see why they do.

The young woman of our story uses righteous anger in place of expectation.  Because that’s all she has available to her.

She told me she was going to be a millionaire.  That’s great.  Now… She must use some sort of pathway to get to her millionaire future.  I guess she’ll see where her anger takes her.

Personally, I’d rather depend upon real expectation instead of a substitute.  Because I’ve found there’s nothing in the world that provides so much security, so much knowingness, so much ‘realness’ as real expectation.

It’s one of the most important chapters in the e-book, How To Create Your Own Reality.

So much of getting what you want hinges on your expectation. If it’s been replaced by pessimism or doubt or something else, then it’s going to be difficult if not impossible to get what you really want.

I can show you how to develop real expectation.  Just click on the link below to get started –


I don’t know where our young Puerto Rican woman will be in five years.  She’ll be 24, with a ten-year-old son.  Will she make her money?  Will she return to her ghetto?  I’ll never know.  I didn’t even catch her name.

What about you?

Are you tapping into real expectation?

You can.


Then you can start living that wonderful affirmation –


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