Miracle Cure For Anxiety

by Mark Ivar Myhre on March 18, 2011

Is there really a miracle ‘anxiety cure’?

I got an email from a guy wondering if he should order one of my products or not.  Basically, he wanted to know if it would provide him a ‘miracle cure’ with instant results. Because if it didn’t, then he would pass, and look elsewhere.

Interesting question.  Here’s the short answer:

I would suggest going to Google, and typing in the phrase ‘miracle cure for anxiety’.  Surely you’ll get a million results.  Start looking at all the web sites, and order whichever one offers you the biggest promises.  That’s a simple solution, but you’ll probably fail.

Don’t get me wrong.  Miracles happen every day.  I’m willing to bet every single person reading this has experienced a miracle of some sort, at one time or another.  Maybe many miracles.  The problem is, they often go unnoticed.  Or even worse, they get ‘explained away’ by logic and reason.

“There has to be a reason why this happened.”

And if there’s not a reason, we make one up.  I’ve seen it over and over and over again.  We can’t just let a miracle happen without pissing all over it.  So it’s not that miracles don’t happen.  They do happen.  All the time.  Even for a tough problem such as anxiety.



In a sense, miracles are raining down on this planet continuously.  The question is, will we allow ourselves to experience one of them?

By definition, a miracle is something that occurs beyond logic and reason, and beyond our current level of imagination and our current level of expectation.  Are you willing to have something irrational happen in your life?  Something that makes no sense?  Something that can’t be conveniently explained away?

I don’t know about you, but I can speak for just about everyone else on this planet.  You see, the urge to control is so strong… and miracles can never be controlled… therefore, miracles seem rare, even though they’re not.

And one of the most common ways we control is by making sure everything in our reality is logical and reasonable. But a big part of the definition of a miracle, is that it’s beyond our control.  From my short, 54 years of experience, there’s almost no amount of pain so great that it will cause a person to give up the ‘need’ to control.  And thus, we can’t see the miracles.

It would be a miracle to stop telling yourself fear stories. Separate the emotion of fear from the story about fear.  Then, you could simply feel the fear – like a roller coaster ride – and experience the emotion of fear.  Then you’d be over it.  And when more fear comes up, you simply feel that fear, too.  And let it pass through you again.  Before you know it, you’ll be feeling a whole lot less fear.

And stop telling yourself a story about what it means to feel fear!
You are the wolf at the door that you fear.  There is no wolf.  The wolf you fear is a part of you.  It’s the stories we tell ourselves about what it means to feel fear – that’s the wolf.  If the person who wrote me about a ‘miracle cure for anxiety’ would understand that, and take it to heart, then he would have his miracle cure.

I guarantee you, if you stop the fear stories, your new-found freedom will feel like a miracle.  It sure did for me.  All I had to do was stop creating my own truth. And start feeling what was really there. Because whenever I become a ‘truth creator’ I start getting scared.

Unfortunately, though, in some perverted way, we tend to believe our fear stories are keeping us ‘safe’.  We tend to believe the fear story keeps the door bolted and the wolf out.  We just can’t let go of the need to control the fear through storytelling.  I’ve actually had good honest people write me and say their fear is different.  Talk about the ultimate fear story!

It’s amazing how much of a person’s imagination can get locked up in fear.  It’s amazing how vivid the stories can be.  How elaborate.  How engaging.  Almost entertaining, in a sad sort of way.  Like watching a scary movie on TV.  Or, living that scary movie.

One of the biggest obstacles to giving up the fear story is that we don’t understand fear itself. That’s why we feel compelled to make up stories about it.  But once you see what’s really going on behind the scenes, it becomes a lot less scary.  Just like the Wizard of Oz.



In case you’re interested, I’ve broken down what fear is, into bite-sized chunks.  That way you can deal with it one piece at a time.  You can digest it a lot easier that way.

Anxiety Cure – Breaking It Down

See, you’ve got the threat of fear, the jeopardy of fear, and the fuel supply for your fear.

No matter what your fear is, it has a threat, which puts you in jeopardy, and it has a fuel supply which keeps it going.

Those are the three parts of your fear.  I wrote a short manual that explains each of these three parts in great detail, and what to do about them.  It also comes complete with a powerful healing meditation.  If you’re interested, you can order it here.

Am I saying this is how you end fear?  No, no, NO!  You do not want to end fear!  You need some fear to live.  You would die if you were truly without fear.  At the very least, you would be some sort of sociopath or psychopath.  It’s not about being fearless.  That’s not wise, if it were even possible.  Don’t listen to your ego on that one.

It’s about feeling the fear – fully and completely – and letting it pass though you.

Also, this is not a way to control fear.  That’s the last thing you want to do.  And yes, I’m very aware that everyone with access to the internet who writes anything at all about emotions, always tells you that you must control them!  As if they were revealing some sort of secret.  Like you haven’t heard it a million times already.

But you try to control fear, and it will get you every time.  You can’t win that game. All you do is end up with layers of fear stories, which become overwhelming as they feed off themselves.

Anyway, that’s only the lesser half of the blockage to experiencing a miracle.

The main concern has to do with your motivation.  See, it’s one thing if you’ve got a loved one on their death bed, and the doctors say there’s nothing more they can do.  Then, your motivation for a miracle is clear: you want your loved one to live!

But usually that’s not what’s going on.  More likely, we want a fairy godmother to come down and rescue us, and save us from having to be responsible for the mess we’ve gotten ourselves into.

We all want a fairy godmother to come rescue us.

Heck, I'll admit it. Even I want a fairy godmother!


We want to be rescued from ourselves.
Or more accurately stated, we want to be rescued from some part of ourselves that we deny even exists, or else refuse to acknowledge is a part of us.  That’s how I lived most of my life.  Waiting to be rescued from myself.

And all the little miracles that popped up to help me face myself?  I ignored them, or pretended they never happened.   Or I never even saw them in the first place.  Or I soon forgot them, if I did recognize them.



See, if I invest decades into my problem, am I really going to let some miracle come along and just end it? I’ve got a HUGE investment here.  I want it to pay off in some way.  I’ll lose my investment if I just let my problem be healed without a whole lot of time and effort and suffering and struggling.

In other words, I’ll be a chump – cause I just got ripped off.  There goes all my efforts into my investment – right down the drain.  I fought this problem night and day for how many years?!!  You really think I’m going to let it just slip away like a thief in the night?  It needs to come back here and fight.

That’s the problem I had.

And if you ever find yourself in this type of situation, there’s only one way out that I know of.  You forgive yourself so you can move on.  Otherwise, it can last a lifetime.

Now, as for the original question as to whether or not I had a miracle cure for anxiety…  It’s like saying, “I’m not going to open my eyes until you can prove to me the sun is shining.”  It’s one of the seven classic payoffs that I mention in the e-book, How To Create Your Own Reality.

What do you say to something like that?

It’s an impossible question to answer.  And that’s the point of asking it.  Because when you ask this question, you aren’t really looking for answers.   You’re looking for excuses.  Or that’s how I see it anyway.

What do you think?

all the best,

Mark

Mark Ivar Myhre
The Emotional Healing Coach
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{ 5 comments }

Will March 18, 2011 at 5:56 pm

Have you ever read “Coming to Your Senses?”

It’s very similar to what you’re talking about here – separating the fear from the story of fear and actually feeling what’s going on in your body.

By “grounding” yourself and really experiencing what your body is feeling, you can then let go of anxiety, addictive behaviors, etc etc.

Awesome post. I always need a reminder now and again. It’s so easy to get caught up in my fear stories without realizing it.

Mark Ivar Myhre March 18, 2011 at 7:22 pm

Hey Will,

no I haven’t heard of that book, but it’s good to know it’s out there.

Sharon March 18, 2011 at 7:43 pm

Mark – you have helped me see a lot – really crucially helpful perspectives on the reality I choose to live in. As I change, daily, with my new insights, I look back on the woman I (barely) used to live as, and I am so proud of the progress I’ve made in just over a year. Fear had me consumed in all areas of life. I thought I was strong – turns out I had a lot of forgiving of myself to do- and my ego had full control. I am so happy I never have to live like that any longer.
Thank you so much. You have truly helped me live a wonderful and fulfilling life as a fulfilled, and ever- evolving woman of substance.
-Grateful

Mark Ivar Myhre March 18, 2011 at 10:45 pm

Wow, Sharon, that is so awesome!

thanks for sharing!

Amy March 31, 2011 at 12:33 pm

You’re the best, Mark. I may not be very responsive but I look forward getting your emails. The timing and topics seem to coincide with series of events in my life. Bless your heart.

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