Letting It Be Different Now

by Mark Ivar Myhre on June 14, 2011

One of the biggest obstacles I’ve had in my life – and one I’ve often seen in others – is that we just won’t let things be different.

“That’s the way it’s always been; and that’s the way it’ll always be!”

Now, we don’t usually say it out loud, like that.  Usually it goes unspoken and unrecognized.  It just is.  It’s something we don’t look at much, we just accept it.

Everything Changes - Why Not You?

Change of seasons in downtown Portland.

It’s a very interesting dynamic, if you think about it.  On the on hand, we want things to be different.  Almost every single person I’ve ever talked to (not just in personal consultations – but everywhere) wants some thing (or many things) in their life to be different.

But we resist change like crazy!  I’ve heard it’s genetically programmed into us to resist change.  ‘Homeostasis’ – keeping things similar so as to make life easier.  And to help us survive, for that matter.

Change scares people. It’s so unknown.  And boy, do I know that fear of the unknown!  But when I look at it closely, and look at my life, I’ve almost ALWAYS been glad the change happened!  Let me give you a dumb example.

I moved back to Gainesville a few months ago to be closer to my family.  I moved into a small rental house with my brother.  We had no lease – since we were fixing it up for a friend of ours.  It was a cute little bungalow, but still – it was small and had unpleasant neighbors.

I painted the entire inside.  It looked awesome.  I used a lot of different shades of yellow on it, and some off-white colors.  I think it was about 8 or 9 different shades.  But after it was done, then we needed to start paying rent on June 1.



My brother felt like we deserved a much nicer and bigger place, but since I don’t like to change, I would just as soon stay where we were.  Well, he went out and found a nice house with a pool in a nicer and more convenient area.  Much larger place, and very little extra money than what we would have to pay at the little bungalow.

We went and looked at the house together.  I still resisted, even though it was clearly a much nicer home.  The owner sensed my reluctance and offered to lower the price even more.  At this point, I would have to be a complete idiot to decline, so I agreed to rent the place.

Now, it’s been two weeks and just yesterday I went by the old house.  I was shocked!  I couldn’t believe I was EVER resisting the move!  I mean, the new place is so much nicer, and the old place now looked like such a dump in comparison.  How could I have been so stupid?

But that just goes to show how strongly I resist change – even when I KNOW it’s for the best.  Thank God my brother was there to lead the charge!  Or I never would have moved.  And now, I’m supposed to go up to Franklin for a week, but I don’t even want to leave the house to go to the grocery store.  Much less go out of town.  That’s how much I love this new place.



And to think I was reluctant to move… because I’m afraid of change.  Dumb, dumb, dumb!  I’m going to let this be a lesson to me, every time I see something about myself that I need to change.  Here’s why it’s so important:

I’ve said this before in the post about ‘fear is increasing’ – the world is changing.  Whatever we feel, we’re going to be feeling it stronger.  I got a few letters from readers telling me I was being a fear monger.

At the risk of getting even more negative feedback, I’m going to say this again.

The world is changing. More than ever before, as far as I can tell.  Everything is different now.  Or, everything can be different now.  Look, it’s not just that your fears are increasing.  ALL of your raw materials are increasing in their scope and in their impact.

Love is increasing.  Happiness is increasing.  Joy and wonder are increasing. It’s not just fear!  Plus, our beliefs and attitudes are having greater influence.  And best of all, our choices and decisions can now be more powerful.  That’s great news!

But all this extra power can be scary.  I’m sorry so many people picked up on the fear part of that article last month, and not the love part.  (Of course, love is much more scary than fear, but I’ll save that for another time…)

The point to all this is –

It’s much easier to change now, than ever before.

It’s easier to change now!  Hallelujah!  Let’s all go out and… oh yeah…  that’s right… we don’t like to change… why is that…?

The most obvious reason – fear of the unknown.  We just don’t know what it will be like if we change.  See, I was used to that little rental house I painted.  I knew it inside and out.  It was familiar.  But the new place – I didn’t know much about it.  There might be some problems that crop up that I can’t see before I move there.  There could be something wrong with it.  I might end up hating it…  It’s just too unknown.

That was my fear about moving.  But now I’m SO HAPPY I did!

Awareness Of The Fear Can Help To Overcome It

“Yes, I’m scared.  And that’s okay.  I give myself permission to feel the fear and then to move past it.  I give myself permission to be afraid.”

Because on the other side of that fear lies something you want; something you’ll be grateful for.  And feeling a little fear may be part of the price you have to pay to get it.  Is that a fair exchange?  Only you can decide.

But why are you alive?  To be mediocre?  To perpetuate the past?  To suffer and struggle through life?  Of course not.  You came here to do great things.  YOU!  Yes, you did.

Are you going to look back on your life with regret, because you let a little fear stop you?  Every day I sit in this house I can’t believe how stupid it was to resist the change.  I just didn’t want to stir things up.



“I’m getting by okay… why rock the boat?”

“I’m surviving…”

You know what?  I’m going to start rocking the boat more!  Remember, everything can be different now.

It’s easier than ever to change.  This is the most exciting time to be alive.  The technological advances we see – almost daily – are just a reflection of what can happen inside you.  Maybe it’s time to go for it.  Here’s a good way to start:

All your raw materials are increasing in scope and influence.
Beliefs, attitudes, thoughts and feelings, and choices and decisions.  Beliefs are more important.  Emotions are more important.  Choices – even choices – are more important than ever before.

How To Make Changes In Your Life

Just the other day I rediscovered one of my own techniques – Power Processing.  If you’re interested in learning more about your beliefs and the other raw materials, this is the best way to do it.

You start with a topic or problem or situation you want to change.  Then you break it apart with Power Processing and see what it’s made of.  Then you change it to suit your needs.

If you like to write stuff down; if you like to process; then this is for you.  It’s a simple writing exercise that shows you exactly how to change all your raw materials into new ones that support you.

If there’s the slightest chance you might be interested, go here to watch the free video –

Power Processing – The Best Way To Change Your Raw Materials

Even if you don’t check it out, at least consider the value of letting in the change – letting it all be different now.  These are exciting, powerful times.  And you didn’t come here to hide your head in the sand.  You didn’t come here to follow.  You came here to blaze your own unique trail.

Even if you don’t go with the Power Processing, then at least consider doing your own form of processing – to understand yourself better, to reduce the fear and anxiety, and to continue your own journey called ‘my life’.

Processing is a tool that can help you get to where you want to go.

It can help you ‘realize’ your life.  Make your life more real.  That’s been my experience.

all the best,

Mark

Mark Ivar Myhre
The Emotional Healing Coach
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Lachlan June 14, 2011 at 7:24 pm

Hi Mark, thanks for thise thoughts. Like you, I have resisted change, though now I welcome it and recognize the Universe is always expanding and energy is in a constant state of change; being energy ourselves, we are changing whether we recognize it or not; it is our normal state. The beautiful thing I have discovered is that I can co-create any reality I can imagine; my imagination and belief of what is possible is the ony limit to what I can have. Having been poor as a child, most of my life I have created “average” and thought that was “good enough”; but my Life is an Unconditional Gift, and the energy of the Universe is Unlimited, so now I create “excellence” with no more effort than the “average” I have created in the past, and a lot more fun!!

Amy June 15, 2011 at 1:11 pm

Thank you for the articles and especially this article about change.

There are things that I want to say to people in my life that I know are either embarrassing or touchy. I can’t change them – but you do know what you’re talking about! 🙂

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