Make 2012 Your Best Year Yet

by Mark Ivar Myhre on January 3, 2012

As I write these words, 2012 has just begun.  Many months ago, I wrote that 2011 will be an intense year.  Maybe the most intense year ever. That’s what I was feeling, anyway.

And for me it was intense.  Very intense.  But in a good way.

I don’t know if I’ve mentioned this before, but at the first of every month, I pick up my phone and make a call to someone I would describe as a ‘friend’ or a ‘mentor’.  It’s very similar to a coach, but not exactly.  I pay 85 bucks for the hour, and it feels like I’m stealing.

I’ve been making these monthly calls since 2003, so obviously I get something out of our conversations, or else I wouldn’t keep doing it.

Anyway, I usually spend part of our time together looking back over the previous month.  That’s how I know – not only has 2011 been the best year of my life (by far!) but it seems every single month of last year was better than the month before.

And in this article, I want to mention the two essential ingredients that can help make 2012 the best year of your life, as well.

This last December has been the most wonderful month ever.  Which is really saying something, since November was so powerful also.  And how do I evaluate each month?

By how I feel.

That’s it.  Everything else is a distant second.  Now, I sometimes say spirituality is the most important thing in my life, but I don’t – or can’t – distinguish between my feelings and my spirituality.  They’re so intertwined that they seem inseparable.  To me, at least.

A life filled with wonder is a spiritual life.  That’s how I see it.

I’ve used the intensity of this last year – I’ve channeled it – into becoming more and more aware of the emotional wellspring that bubbles up inside me.  It might sound simple, almost Pollyanna, but I can assure you there’s quite a complexity to it.

Your emotional wellspring is life itself.

You’re alive because of this flow of energy that comes to you (from your Creator, I suppose).  It flows from somewhere unknown, and can light you up like a light bulb.  Every month, as I chronicle my life, I realize this flow of energy is becoming less and less impeded by my own nonsense.



You may recall, months ago I said there were two things you needed to watch out for in the coming year, with all it’s intensity.  And I believe these two ingredients are even more true for 2012.  They are:

1. The urge to control.

2. The urge to tell yourself stories rather than just open up and feel your feelings.

Control.  I’m not talking about the clumsy, almost humorous attempts of one person trying to control another.  Those are so obvious you can see them a mile away, if your eyes are open.  And you can fend them off simply by putting them up on the table and into the light of day, if you choose.  They melt pretty quick.

No, I’m talking about how you attempt to control yourself.

“I’ve got to be in control of the situation.  I’ve got to be in control of my life.”

Who says?  Where is it written that you have to be in control?

I know, I know…  it’s obvious, isn’t it?  If you’re not in control, well… you’ll be out of control.  Then something bad will happen.  People will look down on you.  They’ll talk about you behind your back.  Heck, you might even go out and step in front of a bus.

But what is control, really?

On the surface, control is an attempt to make love safe.  And everybody wants to make love safe. Nothing wrong with that.  The problem is, control doesn’t work.  You can’t control life.  Not really.  Not for long.

But we think control means we’re being responsible citizens of the earth.  It’s our duty and obligation to control ourselves.  It makes us good people.  It makes us worthy.  It makes us mature, responsible, adults.

Or so the energy of chauvinism says, anyway.  Because control is all about chauvinism and domination.  And like it or not, we live in a world of chauvinism and domination.

I’m doing all I can to change it, but that’s where we are right now.  And that’s why control seems to make so much sense.

But I would say control is the exact opposite of responsibility.  It’s the exact opposite of reality creation.  It’s the exact opposite of what will help you live a wonder-filled life.  Control stifles creativity.  It chokes love.  It narrows your possibilities.  Among many other attributes…

The more we try to control ourselves, the more and more painful it’s going to get.

See, we’ve got this idea that if we’re not in control, that means we’re going to go around screaming like a chicken with its head cut off.  Completely out of control.  Which means we’ll surely meet our demise by running into that city bus barreling down the highway.

The idea of being out of control usually means we’ll be a victim of our emotions – like a puppet on a string.  We’ll flail around like we’re possessed by some sort of demon.  Even worse, other people will lose all respect for us.  They’ll use us.  They’ll punk us.  They’ll laugh at us.

And who wants all that?

Not me.  I’m smart.  Sophisticated.  I’m not asleep.  It’s everyone else in the world.  They’re the sheep.  Not me.  I know what’s going on.

But here’s the problem:

Chaos is increasing.  Changes are afoot.  Big changes.  The dog is shaking itself.  And we’re just fleas on its back.

The changes, and the chaos, are bigger than we are.  We can’t control what’s happening.  To even try is like putting your head in the sand.  And when your head is in the sand, your posterior is exposed.

Control is like rearranging the deck chairs on the Titanic.  It’s just not going to work.  It’s counterproductive and a waste of time



Now, in addition to control, there’s another faulty tool that’s going to create just as much pain in your life.  Namely, it’s the stories you tell yourself about what’s going on.

And first, let me say I’m not against stories.  Everybody loves stories, me included.  Stories and story telling are in our DNA.  Stories are important, and they have great impact in our lives.  Stories are powerful.

But the wonder of stories – that comes from their spellbinding powers – can also be used against us.  Not only by savvy marketers.  Not only by our governments and other structures of society such as the mainstream media…  But by ourselves.

We use the power of stories to hurt ourselves.  It’s like we hypnotize ourselves with the stories we tell ourselves inside our own heads.  And it’s not only stories about our feelings, either.  (That’s just the example I always pound on!)

The problem is we so often refuse to question our own assumptions.  Which opens the door to a life controlled by ego.  When you don’t question your own assumptions; when you refuse to even look at the stories you’re telling yourself all day long; it almost guarantees your ego will be running your life.

And that is a very dangerous place to be.  Because your ego may very well try to get you to run out in front of that bus.  Sometimes, literally.  And if you’re not in the habit of questioning your thoughts, then you just might go along with it.  No matter how self destructive it is.

The answer to this problem is so easy, it hurts to even think about it.

Start questioning your assumptions!

We’re always so cynical of others and their motives.  How about being a little cynical of the thoughts your own ego is putting into your head all day long?  The little voice that sits on your shoulder and always tells you how good you are, or how bad you are.  The little voice that’s always trying to make you feel separate from everybody else.  The little voice that’s always lying to you.

Now, a positive ego is a great ally.  It will enhance your life like you wouldn’t believe, until you experience it first hand.  But if you haven’t worked with your ego – to make it strong and powerful and positive – then most likely it’s weak and negative and destructive.  That’s just the way it works.

Because your ego, among its many other attributes, is a reflection of a weak and negative and destructive world in which we currently live.  Change your ego and you’ll be changing your world.  Seriously. Because reality consists of what we perceive, and when you have a healthy ego, you perceive things differently.

Your reality changes when your measuring and observing devices change.

Not just your perception of reality – but reality itself changes.

It all starts by questioning your assumptions.  In fact, a good argument could be made for the value of sitting down and writing out your biggest assumptions about your biggest problem.  What do I ‘know’ is true about this issue that keeps haunting me?  And be brutally honest with yourself.

Do some free-association writing about what you know to be true.  Don’t take the time to think about what you’re putting down on paper.  Just write without editing. No matter how silly, how uncomfortable, how painful it may be to think about.  No matter how much you should beat yourself up for even saying it, much less believing it…  just write it out.

Sometimes, just bringing the assumptions up on the dissecting table can be enough to end them.  Other times, the assumptions seem intractable, no matter how much logic and common sense you apply.  And the worst of all?  When you angrily refuse to even consider the fact that your facts may not really be facts at all.



But let’s look at the second scenario; when you’re holding an assumption as true, even though its burning your hands.

“I know I shouldn’t think this way, but I can’t help myself.”

While the jaded observer may see this as some sort of character defect, or a manipulative – if not coy – attempt to avoid responsibility, it may in fact be true.  You truly may not be able to help yourself.  At least not yet.

Here’s why:

You’re surrounded by a field of energy.  It’s composed of all your thoughts and all your feelings.  Or rather, it’s composed of your thinking patterns, and your feeling patterns.  See, we tend to think in the same way, and feel in the same way.  And over time, it forms patterns. These patterns can lock us into the thinking the same thoughts, and feeling the same feelings.

So if you’re happy, you tend to stay happy.  Conversely, if you’re depressed, then you tend to stay depressed.

This energy field of your thought and feeling patterns is called your self image.

Everybody has one.  Everyone who has thoughts and feelings, that is.  And there’s a good chance your self image may be keeping you locked into a life you really don’t want to live.

The good news is you can change your self image.  I recently recorded an audio meditation that shows you the easiest, most elegant way I know to change your image.  And when you change your image, your life changes.

When you change your image, your life changes.

It’s almost like a short cut, as much as I hate using that phrase.

I first started using this technique to help people with one of the most difficult of all issues to heal – shame.  But really, you could use it for anything.  That’s because you have many individual self images, as well as one overall self image.

This technique works best when you are dealing with one particular image at a time – such as losing weight, ending shame or depression or panic, finding a soul mate, or improving your financial standing.  Or any other issue, for that matter.

If there’s something you’d like to change about your life, this may be the way to do it.  Just work with your self image – making incremental changes each day.  That’s what this meditation guides you to do.

Your job is to decide what in particular you want to change.  Then, simply let the meditation do the rest.  You’ll be making small changes every day.  That way, it won’t be scary and you won’t feel the urge to slam on the brakes.  It’s the easiest way I know to make a change that lasts.  Slow and steady wins the race, right?

Then, maybe a year from now, you’ll look back, like I have, and say –

“This last year was the best year of my life.”

Here’s my offer:

It’s only $12.  And along with this meditation, you also get access to every single product I’ve ever produced, at no extra cost.  Twelve dollars gets you the best way I know to make permanent changes in any area of your life and it gets you all my other products.  About twenty in all.  The details are here –

http://www.join-the-fun.com/sitemem.html

One final note:

In the self image changing technique, you will be working with your future self and your higher self.  I don’t mention them by name in the meditation, but they will be there, behind the scenes, guiding you and directing you to the change you want to make.  If you do not want to work with your future self or your higher self, then do not listen to this meditation!

Just so we’re clear.

Oh, and I also wrote a transcript of the meditation, included at no extra charge.  (For those who need it.  You know who you are.)

Will 2012 be the best year of your life?  As always, the choice is up to you.

all the best,

Mark

Mark Ivar Myhre
The Emotional Healing Coach
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Christine Landon January 3, 2012 at 12:17 pm

I would like to purchase the self image medidation – how can i do that? i would like the transcript and the medidation.

Mark Ivar Myhre January 3, 2012 at 12:57 pm

Hi Christine,

just click on the link above to get started. Or this one –

http://www.join-the-fun.com/sitemem.html

mark turner January 3, 2012 at 9:24 pm

Tried to join & become a member but when I was unable to access my acount with pay p. I gave the info. for one of my credit cards and after I submited it it took me to a page wanting me to sign on with pay p. I tried to go back to previous page & got booted off.. Whats up with that? Did I get charged or what happened? Thank You Mark Turner.

Mark Ivar Myhre January 3, 2012 at 10:26 pm

From what I understand, you have to actually have a paypal account to be able to sign up with any recurring billing product through paypal. Thus, just using your credit card would not be enough, if you were not logged into your paypal account.

I just checked my stats and it appears you did not get charged. Paypal can be infuriating (talking from personal experience!) and I hope to have another way to take orders soon.

gus breen January 4, 2012 at 1:57 pm

have not taken my meds for 10 days mark i feel a big difference in my self, however i am not sure if this is good or negative i guess time will tell,thanks mark for everything.

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