Your Self Image

by Mark Ivar Myhre on January 16, 2012

Your self image surrounds you like a transparent cocoon.  You can’t see it, but you sure can see what it does to you.  All you have to do is look at your life.

The main problem with your self image is that it can ‘lock you into place’, and keep you in misery or depression or anxiety or self pity or anything, for that matter.  We all need a sense of identity, but when the identity we currently have drags us down, then it becomes a problem.

In a perfect world, your self image would be fluid and flexible – every-shifting and ever-changing throughout the day and throughout your life. A beautiful flowing of energy which reminds me of the aurora borealis.

But we’re not in a perfect world, are we?  Rather than an image that supports us and keeps us strong, and makes it so easy to be happy and successful, instead we’re much more likely to have an image that holds us back.

A positive image will be dynamic; flowing; uplifting.  A negative image, however, will be static; deadening; restricting…  where you think the same thoughts and feel the same feelings day in and day out.  And basically, that’s the self-test you can take to determine if your image is positive and alive, or negative and restrictive.

Do you find yourself thinking the same old thoughts today that you did yesterday, last week, last year?  Are the feelings you feel pretty much the same ones you felt yesterday?  Where nothing seems to change…?

That’s the symptom of a negative self image.  Where you get stuck in a rut.  And not only are you stuck, but even worse, you see yourself being stuck tomorrow.  The future holds no allure.  How can it when nothing changes?

You see, the self image is an invisible ‘energy field’ made up of our thoughts and feelings.  These thoughts and feelings form patterns, and these patterns make up the resonance called our self image.

And once the resonance is in place, it limits our very thoughts and feelings.  It locks us into thinking and feeling the same way, over and over.

To understand more of the self image, let’s look closer at what the word ‘resonance’ means.

1.  Everything radiates some sort of frequency of vibration that emanates outside of itself as a wave function. In other words, everything puts off waves of energy.

2.  When any two objects or energies come together, their vibrations (their waves of energy) overlap.

3.  As these waves overlap, some of them cancel each other out.  Some waves are neutralized.  Some are amplified.  And some become more potent.

4.  All of this interaction creates an interference pattern.

5.  Sooner or later, this interference pattern creates a standing wave of energy.

6.  This standing wave of energy is called a resonance.

7.  Out of this resonance comes ‘reality’.

Resonance is different from the ingredients that make it up.  Just like a chocolate cake is different from the sugar and flour and eggs and cocoa that go into it.

Resonance is far more powerful than the ingredients which make it up.

And that’s what makes all the difference in the world.  The resonance of your self image holds greater power than your individual thoughts and feelings.  That’s why it’s so hard to change your thoughts and your feelings.  Or your depression.  Or your shame. Or whatever you may be dealing with.

If I have the image of a person in pain… then I will live a life of pain.

My image determines what will happen in my life.  It determines what is even possible.  It’s like a bouncer standing at the doorway of the bar; letting in some people, keeping others out.  Some realities are possible for me; and others aren’t.  It all depends on my self image.

And what is my self image?  All my thoughts and all my feelings, which have come together to form patterns.  And out of these patterns, a resonance has formed.  A resonance called ‘my self image’.

Will I be happy?

Will I be successful?

Will I find and marry the man of my dreams?

It all depends on my self image.

Now yes, my subconscious beliefs are important.  All kinds of stuff in the subconscious are important.  After all, the energy that keeps me alive flows through my subconscious. But before that energy and those beliefs can even get to me, it has to pass through my self image.

My self image stands at the boundary between the conscious mind and the subconscious mind.

It’s the gatekeeper to the energy that keeps me alive.  And this gatekeeper – this resonance of energy – is more powerful than the individual thoughts and feelings I have.  Because it’s the sum total of all my thoughts and feelings.

That’s why when you’re stuck in depression or self pity or some other form of misery, it’s so hard to think and feel new thoughts and feelings.  The resonance of all those previous thoughts and feelings is just too strong to overcome. Nothing changes, and you can’t even imagine things changing.

And that’s a very dangerous place to be.

Conversely, when you self image is alive and vibrant and positive, then it changes and stretches and grows and actually makes it easy for you to change.

Is change hard, or is change easy?

Well, partly it depends on your beliefs, yes.  But it very much depends on your self image.  Even when you believe change is easy, your self image can choke off the change that would otherwise come.

And that’s how the self image keeps you in pain.

So what do you do about it?  Assuming, of course, that you even want to change!  Because, let’s face it, many people don’t want to change.  They have every intention of riding out this life in pain.

“Yeah, life sucks.  But I’m used to it.  Why rock the boat?”

That attitude, by the way, is much more common than you might suspect.  In fact, I’d say there’s a little bit of that attitude in each of us.  If we’re willing to dig deep into ourselves, that is…

But here’s the thing:  We didn’t come into this life to be complacent in our pain.  That complacency, that ‘giving up’, that ‘learned helplessness’ which keeps us stuck can be overcome.  I’m telling you – I know what it’s like to be complacent in my pain.

I know what it’s like to figure I’ll just ‘ride out’ this life – coast through till the end – and not try.  To fail at life, in other words.  I know what it’s like to plan to fail at life.  I know what it’s like to give up.  And mean it.  Fortunately, I had some unseen friends who did not give up on me.

I made it over the hump of pain.  And if I can do it…

Listen, there’s going to come a point when you’ll be looking back over this lifetime.

“How did I do?”

And what do you think the criteria of evaluation will be?

I just don’t want to be like the tiger who gets one little claw stuck and rather than jerks himself free, instead he lies down and gives up.  Especially when the barrier can be so easily overcome.  I don’t want to be stopped by a paper-thin fear of the unknown and the uncomfortable.  I didn’t come here to be a coward.  I don’t think you did either.

Changing your self image does not have to be hard or difficult or painful.  Or even uncomfortable, for that matter.  And when you change your self image, you change.  Your life changes.  Your world changes.  Always.  It has to.  It has no choice.

It might be a small change; it might be a big change.  But change will happen.

When I look back to the time when I was imprisoned in my own shame… and I actually thought it was okay to live like that… it’s mind-boggling to think I put up with so much misery when I could have ended it at any time.  It hurts to think about how much I put up with when I didn’t have to.

You can start changing your self image today; right now.  You can work with it directly, in a brand new meditation I just recorded specifically on changing your self image.  In the meditation, you work with your image incrementally.  Step by step.  One small piece at a time.  That way it’s not scary or uncomfortable.

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Now, is this the only way to change your self image?  No, of course not.  It’s just the best way I know of.

You can also work on your self image indirectly.  You can always work on processing out your thoughts and feelings on paper.  You can always ask for help at night, before you drift off to sleep.  You can always practice thinking new thoughts, and feeling new feelings.

You can always stretch beyond what you currently believe is possible.

You can always seek to see the bigger picture.

You can always imagine more.

The question is – are you?

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Remember, your self image can lock you in place and keep you in pain.  It can keep you in a rut that can last a lifetime.   But it doesn’t have to be that way.

Everything can change.  Nothing has to stay the same.  You can feel what freedom really feels like.

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dj corbin January 18, 2012 at 6:16 am

Dear Mark,
Your e-mails have begun to change my life. I am not in a position to spend money on the internet, so I wanted to reach out and thank you for your timely insights. It is obvious you have traveled the path of healing from depression, as the e-mails mirror the exact topics I too face in the order I face them. There is, of course, an overlap of emotion and some back-tracking, but each episode of depressive behavior takes hold of less of me, and I am freed from its grip fairly quickly with some meditation and other efforts. This particular step of changing self image is HUGE. The self hate within me is so deep and great. I am finding stories of past experiences and not so distant experiences have had a cake layer effect, and it is really difficult to sort it all out and realize that no matter anyone’s thoughts or reactions to you this self image is something we give ourselves in the end. First piece of advice I have for everyone is this…… if you ever hear the words of another ringing in your head, observe it, and LET IT GO! Start letting yourself feel yourself first…observe yourself…your own reactions and feelings associated with every prompt you experience…be the eyes behind your eyes…then, suddenly, at some point the identity you have let others give you becomes separated from what you truly feel, see, observe, take on, and respond to. I am deeply ashamed and lost in some serious self hatred. I didn’t understand the depth of my self loathing until I started to have the courage to look, and feel, and observe the voices of others’ words in my mind. In today’s American society, being a woman who is not “beautiful” on the outside is simply hell on Earth. I even fear being seen in public. That’s just crazy!!!!!! As if my looks are the only gift I might have to offer! Who made that stupid rule anyway?! I did. I took on the mainstream thinking on my own. I did that…and I’m changing it! NOW.

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