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Hi. My name is Mark Ivar Myhre and emotional healing is my life.

I’m on a mission to tell as many people as possible about a whole new way of looking at, and relating to, their emotions.

Emotions are the source of your power, and they’re never painful.  That pain you feel comes from blocking your emotions in one way or another.  I guess I better explain…

But first, here’s my little story:  How I went from utter misery and despair to crafting and living the life I always wanted.

To understate it, I had a checkered past.  Growing up in Starkville, Mississippi, might seem like a Norman Rockwell painting come to life – and I’m sure it was for others – but for me it held way too much pain and shame.

Life just seemed harder than it had to be.  Much harder.  Basically, it was the result of two factors:

1.  Being shamed as a young child.
2.  Being overly sensitive to that shame.

Basically, I experienced too much physical and emotional abuse before the age of 5, and I couldn’t process what was happening to me.  All I could do was blame myself.

“There must be something wrong with me.”

That was the only conclusion that made sense.  And, in fact, it became the dominant belief in my life.  I functioned from a place of ‘there’s something wrong with me’.  Everything I thought, everything I felt, everything I did and said – came out of that one errant belief.

It became my self image.  “I am the one who’s flawed and defective and has no business even being alive – much less mingling with all the good honest people of the world.”

I began to see myself as hideously ugly and so I retreated into myself.  I was terrified of others.  And, perversely, even more terrified to be alone.  That in itself is a recipe for pain.

Depression, too, was a natural outgrowth of the shame.  Ironically, the only thing that kept me going was my ever-present plan of suicide.  “I can always kill myself” – or so I kept thinking.  Childhood – and even adolescence – was a lonely desperate hell.  Looking back, it’s no wonder I sought out drugs.  For a while there, I would’ve taken anything that might make me feel different than the way I normally felt.

At seventeen, I discovered meditation.  From Guru Maharaj Ji – as he was known then.  He had an elaborate organization of followers, but I wanted little to do with all that.  I just wanted to meditate!

At last I had something to live for – and some tangible hope for the future.  Meditation became my life.  I would spend one, two, sometimes four hours a day sitting in a dark room; mainly focusing on my breath and trying to quiet my mind.  I just had a natural temperament for it.  It came easy.   Plus, it gave me a reason and an excuse to not have to deal with the world.

It became my fantasy world.  But after a few years, once I reached a new equilibrium, the pain and the despair came back with a vengeance.  Sitting alone in a dark room in silence reached a point of diminishing return, I suppose.  Plus, it certainly didn’t do anything to end the shame.

It felt wonderful when I was in meditation, but sooner or later I had to come up for air.  There’s still that nagging question of how am I going to pay the bills and eat food; and how can I do so with the absolute minimum contact with other humans…

By my early 20’s I was consumed with my own negative ego and my inner martyr.  Not to mention, the inner outlaw and the inner addict.  And of course, my inner victim.  And because I never resolved my childhood and adolescence, my inner child and inner adolescent were also a big part of the mix.

Basically, I functioned as a composite of a handful of ‘lesser’ parts of my consciousness.  They drove my life, while I was huddled in the backseat, too afraid to even look out of the window.

In other words, I was asleep.  Sleepwalking through life.  Which, as you might imagine, creates all sorts of self sabotage and pain and confusion and of course fear and panic and anxiety.  How could it not?

When you don’t function as an adult (assuming you’re grown up) then life has to be scary and painful.

As bad as childhood was, my 20’s were worse.  It’s like everything caught up with me.  All the avoidance of responsibility came home to roost.  All the things I’d been running from were starting to catch up with me.  So I ran away harder and faster.  Which means I fell down more, and hurt myself more.  More skinned knees and more scraped elbows.  More sabotage.  Stronger fear.  Greater pain.

When I’ve spoken elsewhere of rusting out gun barrels with my own saliva – sometimes sitting for hours with the hammer cocked back, playing with the pressure of the trigger – this is the time period when it happened.  As I was freaked out of my mind.

See, I wasn’t just depressed; I was manic depressed.  I had a crazy maniac inside me who knew no bounds.  I had lost all sense of right and wrong.  No moral compass. I was a crazy delusional man.  And I would just as soon have killed someone else as kill myself.  It’s hard to put into words just how much hate I lived with.

The funny thing is, through it all I still had hope for a better life.  The hope never left.  And in fact, the guardian angels never left either.  I felt them even as I cursed them.  I knew they were there.  I just didn’t know why they were there.

Why me?  Why would you waste your time hanging around me?  Why don’t you go somewhere else where you can make a difference?  Go find someone who’s more worthy.  Someone you can save.  Someone who wants help.

They never left me.  I didn’t realize it at the time, but my own soul was always in the background as well; guiding my life with a fierce determination.  Keeping me alive, I suppose.  I can think of a few times when I should have died.  Or, at the very least, I should have experienced great calamity.  But my soul saved me.

Now I know why.  But at the time there’s no way I would believe I was loved by anyone or anything.  I refused to let in the love.  Because that would have opened the door to doubt.  I might have started to doubt my own lies.

See, when you’re a shame-based person, you have to lie to yourself.  You have to shame yourself.  You have to tell yourself that you really are a no-good piece of whatever.  That’s the nature of shame.  You feel compelled to punish yourself before someone else can do it to you.

Anyway, I continued to drift aimlessly.  Then, at the age of 30, I became a father to a beautiful little girl.  Certainly one of the highlights of my life.  Everything changed; I had a new reason to live.  I had an anchor.  It was a wonderful distraction from my own issues.

Mark Ivar Myhre

It wasn’t until my 40th year that I finally found the answer I’d been searching for my whole life.  I stumbled upon it by accident, in Salem, Massachusetts, of all places.  And now life keeps getting better and better.  It didn’t happen all at once, though.

And it was not a push-button magic solution.

Rather, it was a road map – or more clearly stated, a treasure map.  I still had to do all the work, but at least now I knew what to do.  I knew how to forgive myself and how to create my own reality.

And that’s an important point to understand:  I had to do the work.  Even though I have so much help available to me, if I’ll just let myself receive.

Plus, there’s no simple answer.  There’s no ‘the’ answer.  Instead, there’s a whole lot of little answers.

I wasted so much time trying to find THE answer – and there’s not one.  It’s just a whole bunch of baby steps.  If there’s one secret to understand – that’s it!

You start from where you.  And you take a baby step.  Then, you take another one.  And another one.  Soon, you can be walking like a pro.  Then you can run.  But there are no magic bullets.  Mostly it involves an entirely new mindset.

You need to take back your power from wherever you’ve given it.  Then you’ll have the muscle to start taking those baby steps.

For me, taking back my power and developing a new mindset revolved around emotional healing.  I’ve discovered that emotions are the source of my power.

Emotions are a gift from the divine.  They flow into me and I get to experience anything I want.  I create my life out of my emotions.  But if I attempt to block the flow of emotion – as we’re all taught to do, then life becomes more and more painful. I’m shut off from my power; I’m shut off from the divine; I’m shut off from my heart’s desire (which is to FEEL).

All of which leads to pain.  But the more I open up to the flow of emotion, the more powerful, the more alive, and the more wonderful I feel.  Life becomes a joy – the way it’s supposed to be.

While there are many different techniques you can use to feel better, having a new mindset is the most important thing to keep in mind.  I’ve tried to write this blog with the goal of providing both technique and a new mindset – a new way of looking at your emotions.

Emotions aren’t kryptonite.  They don’t kill you.  Rather, they’re the source of your power and aliveness.  They’re a gift.  To me, that’s what emotional healing is all about.

As life continues, I’ll probably be adding to this page…

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R. Matherne July 3, 2011 at 11:19 pm

Hi Mark,

I’m writing to offer Emotional Times a free review copy of the new book “Wisdom to Wellness: Healing Your Emotional Sufferings so the Physical Healing Can Follow” by Maureen Minnehan Jones.

“Wisdom to Wellness” details a technique developed by Jones — a registered nurse for 38 years — for identifying and releasing the emotional sources of physical illness. Building on the work of authors Michael J. Lincoln, Ph.D., and Louise Hay, tracing ailments to their emotional roots, Jones demonstrates a proven method for releasing psychological trauma and restoring the body’s natural ability to heal.

I hope you’ll consider reviewing the book or linking to an excerpt. I can send a sample announcement for you to use if you like.

For a free review copy of “Wisdom to Wellness” — or an interview with author Maureen Minnehan Jones — please reply with your preferred mailing address.

Thanks for Your Consideration,
R. MATHERNE for O Books

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Sharon July 5, 2011 at 10:43 am

Mark,
“What will I decide to do with my life?”
I decided to hold a telesummit: “People Pleasers Recovery Time: Lifeline to Reclaim You!” {Self-Love 101} in Aug 2011.
Since you have been very influential in my own healing I’d love to invite you to be a speaker so that together we can facilitate others’ emotional healing promoting a win win win situation for all of us.
Didn’t see any other contact method so please, forgive me if this wasn’t the correct way to reach you. I would appreciate hearing back from you other than in my “Emotional Times” LOL asap.
Grateful for all you do to create personal Peace thus create World Peace!
If you want to get a better idea about me, please watch:
http://www.youtube.com/user/Comfort4shar8?blend=4&ob=5#p/a/u/1/zauOPJ2Fbm4
Sincerely in Spirit,
Sharon

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Sandi Teale July 22, 2011 at 2:25 pm

Hi Mark
I stumbled upon your site after a day of lying on my couch,feeling very down.I knew I felt shame, I knew I felt a whole load of negative feelings and I’m at the end of a 30 year addiction to Valium. (misdiagnosis from docs).I think I’ve read half of the self help books but have been to scared to take the 1st steps to recovery. I so want to feel again, be true to myself.Thank you for writing such honest inspiring articles.
Kind regards Sandi

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Mark Ivar Myhre July 22, 2011 at 5:43 pm

Hi Sandi

and thanks for writing

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valerie November 12, 2014 at 9:09 am

your thinking is oriental, South asian. chakras of Healing. sounds very good.

from montreal, quebec.

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